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A gentler Pace
maybe it's okay to go slow
I wish I had learned sooner that moving at a pace that feels right to you can also be just as productive. You don’t have to follow someone else’s template. I wish I hadn’t fallen prey to a timeline that someone else wanted to decide for me. The urgency of doing things at a particular timeframe caused me a lot of anxiety and fear on several occasions. For someone who is slow and sensitive, doing things the hard way or fast pace has never worked for me. Maybe you can relate.
My trauma with doing things the hard way started in my school days when there was a lot of focus on academic success and ranks determined how far one would reach in their life. I wasn’t a brilliant student and wasn’t very successful in sports either and back then, only these two fields were considered worthy of determining a student’s achievement. I adored art and was good at it too, but it was considered weaker and not something that one can call an achievement or viable career option.
For me that created a lot of blockages in my personal life as well. I always felt that the way I wanted to live my life, wasn’t the ‘right’ way. it made me doubt my choices and impacted my decisions. I often dwelled in self-doubt and was embarrassed to be me. I always wanted to be someone who was easily accepted in the world. I always felt like a disappointment.
Things today have become much more flexible regarding how we wish to live our lives. Today if we choose an approach that’s not conventional, at the very least, we aren’t told that we can’t give it a shot. We are welcomed and given the space to explore.
This is in my opinion a great example of moving at a gentler pace. We’re more open today.
We have come a long way with the choices we make in our personal lives. Today we allow ourselves to pause and reflect to make the changes that will allow us to genuinely live the kind of life we wish to live. We allow ourselves to let go of habits, patterns, and people that don’t add to the way we wish to live our life. Today we make space for things that matter to us.
But I’ve also noticed that a lot of people are still stuck in the hamster wheel of life and somehow haven’t been able to move at the pace they want to move in or make choices that will allow them to move at the pace that truly contributes to their well-being and the success graph they envision.
The more I work with creatives, the more I notice that people still find it difficult to make the choices that will help them move at a gentler pace. I have noticed that even though they wish to let go of certain patterns and choose again, something stops them. I’ve often consulted clients about revisiting their priorities and always encouraged them to find the courage to put themselves first. This also means that they may need to say no more than they do, which can be very challenging.
Moving at a gentler pace is not a sign of weakness. We don’t always have to be somewhere. We can sometimes enjoy the moment, just where we are.
We’re always playing by the rules and norms laid out for us; when we try to defy them, we are always worried about the consequences that may follow. Try journaling this and see how you feel.
What is the worst that can happen when we try to just slow down and move at a comfortable pace?
What are our priorities?
What template are we often following?
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