A moment to celebrate
what's stopping you?
When I was first learning about manifesting and trying to understand the science behind how it all works, one thing that truly blew my mind was that even small victories and changes needed to be acknowledged and celebrated. How we need to pause and keep reminding ourselves that if we could manage to manifest this small thing, something that we truly desire is definitely going to happen.
As humans, we can get impatient from time to time, and this can cause a lot of distress and unpleasant thoughts. We as humans are also never satisfied and keep looking for more. While I believe that we shouldn’t shy away from asking for more, I also have experienced that pausing from time to time and celebrating things we’ve already made happen can really boost our vibrational energy and we start to attract more of what we desire.
For e.g., if you were manifesting a loved one to call you and instead of calling you, say they messaged you, it’s still something that calls for a celebration. There was progress in your manifestation and a sign that it’s working.
One of the biggest obstacles in my experience is this question we constantly ask ourselves, “Whatever I’m desiring, is it good for me or should I be asking for something else?” in my opinion when we ask this question, we automatically create a blockage. It’s a way to say that we are encouraging our limiting beliefs and fear. This constant fear also creates mental blockages and creates a time lag and delay.
When we experience a delay, we feel discouraged, and instead of feeling good about all that we have or are achieving we focus on all that isn’t working and can’t find the need to celebrate small moments at all.
When I work with clients, I love celebrating small wins with them. Of course, because they’re still in that phase and trying to figure things out they sometimes don’t really see the changes that they have been making and how even small wins create big opportunities for growth. When I tell them of the progress, they’ve made they feel incredible, and that sense of achievement encourages them to do a lot more than they can.
I often ask clients to make an achievement list and review that list at the end of the day. I’ve noticed and experienced that the more we focus on what we achieve we feel confident and to some extent also hopeful that we’re closer to our goal.
I often work with people who are creatives or people who work in creative fields, and as someone who is also creative, I understand how intuitive and sensitive we can get. We have an inner critic that always makes us feel as if we’re not enough. We always have an inner voice that pulls us back. We are afraid of taking the plunge.
A lot of times I tend to focus on things that aren’t working instead of focusing on the small achievements that I’m making. Usually, this happens because I’m thinking from the voice of my inner critic and this voice is usually filled with judgement, therefore it is unable to see the progress and achievement I am making. It’s human nature to look at failure more than our achievements.
Learning about manifestation and how important it is to celebrate small victories really changed the way I started thinking. I felt more confident and less hopeless.
In a way, our inner critic can help redirect the way we think about our limitations. That can allow us to look at our progress and give us the opportunity to embrace what our goal is. The negative thinking is in a way our biggest distraction that needs to be dealt with compassionately.
In my program, “the pause, breathe, dream” with my clients, I talk a lot about understanding the inner critic.
When I work with clients on this, they often talk to me about a lot of their past trauma and unhealed wounds that they now see as their inner critic and the fact that this trauma shows up when they try to look at their progress or try to acknowledge their progress. Fear is a constant pattern. Sometimes fear can lead to confusion and internal conflict that prevents us from looking at all the times we’ve actually succeeded.
It can be challenging to feel successful when we are constantly bothered by our inner critic telling us that we’re not good enough, we won’t ever get there, we shouldn’t dream big, and it’s all just a big waste of time. However, when we challenge our inner critic itself, it can help us look at our limitations differently. It can give us a fresh approach to our mindset and can help break a lot of barriers.
When I’m feeling too overwhelmed by my inner critical voice, I try to challenge my inner critic with the progress I think I’ve made. In a way, it’s a way to celebrate and recognize the achievements I have indeed made and a way to move past the fear that my inner critic usually shows me.
In a journal/notebook, I make two columns, in one I write down the constant voice that my inner critic shows up with, my limiting beliefs, and in the other column I write down a small achievement I’ve made, even if it is just showing up that day, it doesn’t matter. I write it down.
In my experience with my own beliefs and with clients, I’ve noticed that it helps a great deal. But everyone has their own experiences, and everyone has their own journey. It also requires a lot of patience, and we may need to do this as many times as it takes.
Anytime I ask clients to do this, it helps them understand that the hurdle is very basic and they easily find a way to acknowledge the progress they’ve been making.
I’d like to invite you to take a moment to celebrate your progress in something you’ve been working toward. If you feel you aren’t there yet, this is your inner critic causing a distraction. It could serve as a great opportunity to open your journal/notebook and challenge your critic.
If you’d like to work on this together these are a few options that you can choose from -
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