Confusion can help to redirect
My perspective on confusion
I’ve often felt that when we feel something that is conventionally labelled as negative or unhealthy, we sometimes miss out on what it could really mean to us. We start to run away from these things, as they tend to show us a mirror that we don’t wish to see. We’re often so focused on feeling positive that we don’t stop to understand that what we think is so negative could actually help us grow and heal and help us reconnect with ourselves.
I’m someone who finds myself feeling confused very often. I tend to spiral for days and it bothers me till I don’t solve it or reach a conclusion that makes me feel satisfied. Maybe you can relate?
When I used to go through something like this earlier, it would make me feel weak. As if I’m getting way too emotional and I shouldn’t be this way. Especially since I’m a therapist, I should have it all figured out and shouldn’t feel so confused so often. But the more I felt this way the more I realized that maybe this confusion is helping me reach somewhere, it’s helping me go somewhere. Maybe it’s trying to tell me something.
Sometimes it’s about perspective, sometimes it’s about understanding what lies beneath the surface, and trying to reach the bottom of what lies below can be really challenging. It can be frustrating too. What really helps is when we just quiet down and give our thoughts a little bit of space to breathe.
I’ve noticed that confusion for me is a sign of being unable to let go. I feel that when I’m confused about something it’s a sign that I need to let go of something that I’m holding on to unnecessarily. The things that I know I want to keep don’t ever bother me or confuse me but when I need to let go of something, I know that causes a lot of confusion.
Confusion for me helps me bring to light something that I probably overlooked for a while. It brought to the surface certain things that required my attention but I kept ignoring it. When I’m stuck in that confusion, I see that I spiral, rant, and complain because the part of me that’s still controlling is the part that is refusing to let go.
Sometimes for me, confusion is a simple reminder that I need to focus on what I want and need instead of focusing on fear and what other people think. Sometimes confusion helps me slow down and reminds me that I’m probably caught up in someone else’s template and I need to realign and refocus.
It would be so much easier if we could just ask others what to do and follow that instead of riling up and overthinking. But that’s obviously not possible because we as individuals know what’s best for us and what we need right now. Sometimes the confusion forces us to come to terms with the belief that we know better and we know what’s best for us.
I’ve also realized that when I’m dealing with confusion, there’s an internal conflict between what my mind wants and what my heart desires. There’s never a right strategy to go about it but I feel like every time I listen to my heart and listen to what my heart truly desires, the confusion and the need to go back and forth with my confusion goes away.
In my opinion, confusion is a great way to help redirect the attention. It helps, at least for me, it helps to remind myself to come back to my desire and my focus and get a handle on things when they’re messy and chaotic.
I am not sure how you feel about confusion but if like me it bothers you then perhaps shifting your perspective is a great way to go about it. It may require you to take a few moments to calm yourself and try to narrow down to your voice only and listen to what your heart desires.
It’s a great reminder that you know what’s truly best for you and it's an amazing opportunity to only allow yourself to have faith in you.
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